Untrustworthy “Regular” Clientele
Share/filters:format(jpeg)/original/i70nfb2qr09uc6qaf3m02m.jpeg?signature=6a8ec0f8a12fea124bd03856ada928d9cda9b8acb79332c52ada8aa5f528d5a2)
I’ve said this before, and I still stand by it: some of the most untrustworthy and unreliable clients in sex work are the so-called “regulars.”
Now before anyone gets defensive, let me be clear, not all regulars are problematic. Some are respectful, punctual, and understand boundaries. Those clients? I appreciate you. Truly.
But there’s a pattern I’ve experienced over time that needs to be talked about.
The Entitlement Trap
When a client sees you more than once, something shifts. Familiarity starts to blur professional lines. Suddenly:
• They expect discounts.
• They push for “extras.”
• They ask for things that go against your clearly stated boundaries.
• They assume access outside of booking hours.
• They feel entitled to priority treatment.
Some start acting like loyalty earns ownership. It doesn’t.
Sex work is a business. Returning doesn’t buy control. It doesn’t buy emotional leverage. And it definitely doesn’t buy a discount unless one is explicitly offered.
Respect Shouldn’t Expire with Familiarity
One of the most frustrating patterns? The casual disrespect.
Regulars who:
• Show up late without notice.
• Cancel last minute.
• Don’t show up at all.
• Assume you’ll “understand” because they’ve seen you before.
No courtesy call. No accountability. Just expectation.
There’s this outdated mentality that because someone is paying for a service, basic respect becomes optional. As if professionalism only flows one way.
That mindset is tired.
Paying for a service does not exempt anyone from punctuality, communication, or basic human decency. This is still a business transaction. My time is valuable. My boundaries are firm. My standards are non-negotiable.
The Myth of “Special Treatment”
For a long time, I treated regulars differently. I prioritised them. I was more flexible. I gave grace.
And what did that teach some of them? That flexibility equals weakness. That familiarity equals permission.
Not anymore!
I no longer treat regulars as more important than new clients. Everyone gets the same:
• Clear boundaries
• Clear pricing
• Professional conduct
• Mutual respect
I provide a service tailored to your fantasy, and nothing more.
No emotional entitlement.
No bending my values.
No special privileges.
Professionalism Is a Two-Way Street
Sex work is real work. It requires emotional intelligence, safety awareness, time management, and business skills. It deserves to be treated seriously.
If a client disrespects my time, ignores my boundaries, or repeatedly behaves irresponsibly, the solution is simple: I block and move on.
No drama. No chasing. No resentment.
No love lost.
Because protecting my peace, my safety, and my professionalism will always matter more than keeping a “regular” who doesn’t know how to act like one.
And the clients who do respect the boundaries? They’ll always have a place at the table.
The rest can find someone else.
#SexWorkIsWork
No comments yet. Be the first to leave one.
/assets/rta-blue.webp?signature=ec4977e5072f2b96132d1f08c3bef7c313f538d8d651dd59c6e8f1a50bf4ff74){kind=small}