Fetishes,kinks…and why shame has no place in the bedroom!
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The more people I meet, the more I realise just how different we all are when it comes to desire. What turns one person on might do absolutely nothing for the next. Some people are into things that feel soft, slow, emotional. Others crave intensity, power, taboo, or fantasy. And honestly? That diversity is kind of beautiful.
Yet somehow, we still live in a world where people feel entitled to mock, judge, or shame others for what they’re into — as if there’s one “correct” way to experience pleasure.
There isn’t.
Fetish vs Kink — and Why Both Are Normal
A fetish is often something specific that someone needs or strongly prefers for arousal — like a body part, an object, a sensation, or a dynamic. A kink is more like a non-traditional sexual interest or activity — things that fall outside what society labels “vanilla.”
But here’s the thing: normal is just whatever two (or more) consenting adults agree on.
Kinks and fetishes aren’t automatically unhealthy, broken, or “too much.” In fact, many of them are rooted in psychology, trust, vulnerability, and even healing. Some people use kink to feel powerful. Some use it to give up control. Some use it to feel seen, desired, or present in their body in a way they don’t in everyday life.
None of that is wrong.
What is wrong is shaming people for being honest about what excites them — especially in a world that already teaches us to feel embarrassed about our bodies and desires. We need to be building each other up,not tearing each other down.. We need to be less judgemental of others (and ourselves!) and mindfulness and trying to be understanding of the things we find odd or strange is a good place to start 😊😘
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